"The more incompetent he/she feels, the more eager he/she is to fight." Fear is often a factor False Expectations Appearing Real.
"Look at children: they fight precisely at the age when they have not yet learned to express their thoughts"
Maybe we should stop and listen and ask the question "what is your passion and what do you want to make of your life? If the answer is "I don't know" then maybe we can help and encourage mindful exploration of possibilities. Yes that's what leaders do!